We all know them… the players who always have a “reason” why they played poorly and lost. The sun. The wind. Loose/tight strings. Bad back. The list goes on and on; but it is the smarter player who just accepts their loss and learns from it.
Look at Rafa
Thanks to Scoot Dimon for relaying this telling comment from Rafa after his tough loss at the Aussie Open to Tsitsipas ….
“Sometimes things go well; other times the things go worse. Unfortunately for me in this tournament I had more injuries than in the others. Then matches that you lose like today against one of the best players of the world is something that happens.
“(I’m) not at all feeling unlucky for me; not at all (am) I complaining about my luck here in Australia. Everyone has what (they) deserve…. I have what I deserved in my career, and over here in Australia I had chances but I was not able to convert it. That’s all. I didn’t deserve more.”
Learning From Losses
If you really can be objective about it, you can review your misses and your losses to see what you could have done differently that might have changed the outcome. It could be something major like lack of conditioning; or it could just be a grip change.
But tennis teachers always say, “You can learn more from your losses than from your wins.”
There are also times when you are just out-matched by a superior player or team. A few years back, I had the challenge of playing then #1 in the country Jimmy Parker in singles at a National Tournament. He dominated and beat me 6-2 6-1 … but I played great (for me) and came off the court very satisfied with the match.
Are YOU a “yes, but” loser or handle defeat objectively?
As planned on Wednesday, DeDe and I had our first Covid shots in the morning and I went for a two-hour lung drain at noon. My right lung was OK; but the took another quart of fluid from the left lung sac. My heart surgeon doesn’t know why (happens in 10% of bypass cases); but has put me on extremely high dosage diuretic to try to suck all the fluid out before it can migrate to the lungs. Right now, I am peeing like a sailor and breathing great!
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