You just played a grueling and close tennis match and after you congratulate your opponent(s) they proceed to tell you how/why they beat you. What do you feel about opponents who give you “advice” after a match?
Solicited or Unsolicited?
For me, the key is did YOU seek out their advice or did they just take it upon themselves to start telling you the answers? If they just started pointing out your weaknesses (or their strengths), In my opinion, that is inappropriate.
But on the other hand, I am one who really appreciates any insights the better players can give me to help improve my game … especially after they just played and beat me!
Two excellent examples of players who have regularly beat me (in singles and doubles) are Fred Drilling and Hank Irvine. They both are very willing to hang around after a match and share their valuable insights with you. And if you are smart, you listen.
The one caution I would offer is … sometimes the teaching pros (and I include my hero Roy Emerson in this group) will seize on just an error or two you made during the match and GENERALIZE that to an inherent weakness in your game. You have to be objective enough to know the difference. It is a little like the alcoholic’s prayer…
God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.
Why I LOST to You
And then there are the players who tell you why they LOST to you … “Boy, I couldn’t hit my forehand today.” … “I just couldn’t get my big first serve in.” … “My game was just off today.” … etc.
I believe, if you hear the same excuses from a player two times, that IS their game! They are not off that day.
How about YOU … are you an advice giver or taker?
PS I just got this via email from a friend: “We had a phone conference yesterday Florida section Leagues Committee. National has canceled all national championships for 2020. USTA no play has been extended through May 31. Sectional championship dates are yet to be determined based on when play will resume. Challenging times for everybody but we can handle it and come out stronger on the other side. “
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