Your partner is playing poorly and you are losing the match. What should you do about it? From the 1988 Bobby McFerrin song title, I suggest, “Don’t Worry. Be Happy.”
“Accentuate the Positives”
And from the 1957 Johnny Mercer song lyrics…
“Accentuate the positive
Eliminate the negative
Latch on to the affirmative
Don’t mess with Mister In-Between”
Here is what I mean, consider these positives …
- (If you are in a warm climate) you are
outside in the sunshine, getting valuable, life-extending exercise,
- You are playing a game and socializing
with friends (also, clinically proven to extend your life span)
- And if you don’t lose focus, you are probably playing well enough to be happy with your own performance.
So just accept the fact that your partner is having a bad day and still have a positive experience. Try not to make faces, make grunts, or admonish them; but be as supportive as possible and tell them to “keep swinging.”
And always remember, you can only control two things: what YOU think and what YOU do.
What do you do when your partner is playing poorly?
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