Agreeing with the philosophy of Jeff Greenwald in his “Fearless Tennis” CDs, asking that question focuses only on the RESULTS and totally dismisses the PROCESS … Did your friend play well? Did he make shots that he has been working on? Did he have fun on the court?
While in the locker room at Payne Park last week, one of the better 65 tournament players, Timm Rinehart came in after his semi-finals singles match vs. Henk Nijeboer (world #5 70s player). And I asked him, “How did you play today?”
His face lit up… and said, “I played great! I took him to a tiebreaker in the first set and played well in the second set too.” He was very happy with his day on the court, losing against one of the better players.
But had someone asked him, “Did you win?”… his answer was just going to be “No.” And then he would have to try to justify his loss.
On that same plane, the parent/friend/coach who says to his player after a tough match or tournament, “I sure wish you were able to win that last game/match,” says to the player, “Sure, you did OK to get where you were, but I am disappointed that you were unable to seal the deal and win.”
I do not think people play tournament matches just “to win.” Unless you are the likes of Larry Turville, Mike Dahm, or Fred Drilling, YOU ARE GOING TO EVENTUALLY LOSE.
If all you care about is “winning,” go find some 3.5 player to beat up on all the time. But if what you care about is trying to improve, playing a game that you enjoy, one that brings you great conditioning, one that gets you out on the court with friends and future friends… then put that perspective on what you talk about after matches.
End of sermon.
This week’s Florida Super Senior Grand Prix tournament (which I am NOT playing) is being played in St. Petersburg. For the tournament link, click HERE
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